A successful marriage requires falling in love many times,
always with the same person.
Recently, my husband, Bruce, wrote a blog on 10 Romance Starters. For personal inspiration, I thought I would make a list too; however, before you read it, I want to say something. Bruce and I are like every other couple. We go through phases and our intimacy goes in waves. We get tired, distracted, and busy. Romance is NOT always a priority; however, we are having a blast in this season being more intentional about it. We hope our lists serve as an inspirational springboard of fun, love, and greater intimacy for you and your man or woman.
1. Compose a simple poem
If you want to take it up a notch, use Google Translator to transpose your poem or letter into either French or Italian. Make sure to handwrite your personal English version on the back side.
2. Write a love Letter
- Try and be specific listing your favorite things about your partner. (Physically, mentally, personality-wise, and spiritually)
- If you want to get creative, cut your note into puzzle pieces, put it in an envelope under you spouse's pillow.
- Consider taking that note and putting it in the mail for your spouse to open at home or work.
- I often buy cards and save them for when Bruce is going out of town and sneak them in his suitcase.
- Don't forget that a simple email or text of love can be a sweet, simple reminder.
3. Make a video
- Be creative by videoing yourself sharing your favorite things about your partner (physically, mentally, personality-wise, and spiritually). This way they can see your smile and hear your voice. They will have a permanent record to look back at over time.
4. Breakfast in bed
Light candles all over the house or room you plan to spend time in. Caution: This does create a major fire hazard...consider yourself warned!
6. Treasure Hunt
Bruce has done this for me. It is a fun idea. You create, say, five clues that all lead to a "final" prize. For instance, a massage leads to a mani/pedi that leads to drinks with friends leads that then leads to dinner with your spouse.
Or, another idea is to create a treasure hunt that takes place entirely in your spouse’s car. Have a fun surprise in the trunk, non-human of course!
7. Ask questions
- What is your dream vacation?
- What is your favorite memory of "us"?
- What are you most concerned about right now. (Sometimes a question like this helps the other person process and feel connected to the asker.)
- What is your favorite thing about me?
- What does romance look like for you?
- What is your favorite thing that I wear?
- If I died at the end of this month what would you want me to know?
- If you had to describe me as a type of food, what would I be and why?
- Why do you think I love you?
- What is a song that you think is romantic besides Let's Get it On?
8. Reminisce over old pictures
Grab some champagne....Dust off your wedding photos or pictures from a trip, and walk down memory lane.
9. Consider your partner's interests
Take an interest in your partner’s interests. Bruce loves movies and sports. So taking the time to stop my busyness and snuggle up next to him for a game or movie makes him so happy.
If music be the food of love, play on.
- William Shakespeare
Check out our personal playlists!
Happy Romancing! So what's on your list?.....
Tracy Levinson - outsidethenest.net