Men always want to be a woman's first love -
Women like to be a man's last romance.
It all started in college when I wanted to impress my girlfriend at the time with a trail of chocolate candy kisses leading to ME, inside my off-campus house I shared with 5 other colorful guys. I laid the trail on the carpet and up the stairs and then waited to receive her and all the accompanying accolades. When she arrived, she made no mention of the candy. So, I had to ask her if she saw them. Well, as you can probably guess by now, some of my roommates arrived home, saw the trail of chocolates and methodically and deviously ate all of them before she arrived!
Let's face it, not all of our "romantic plans" always work out, but it's like sales, the more you try the more opportunities you have. We make our own magic. So, here are ten ideas that I am challenging myself with to keep the fires of romance burning. Go get 'em, fellas. Let your spouse know how important she is to you!
I acquired the art of daydreaming as a kid in school. Daydreaming and listening to your wife are not the best combination. So, I've consciously decided to ask questions about her day and listen to her as if Al Michaels was doing a play-by-play.
Surprise her with a spontaneous dance after dinner in the bedroom or, my favorite, in the master closet. A couple of simple twists and turns or some slow dancing will probably work. Leave the advanced stuff to Swayze.
3. Bubble Bath
Tracy loves her bath time. I don't usually join her. So, I'm thinking some music, candles, champagne, rose petals, a hot towel from the dryer, and ME should do the trick.
4. Stroll or Bike ride
A simple stroll through the neighborhood holding hands will do a world of good for my girl. Here's a tip: consider googling the walking trails in your area to make it a special memory.
5. Evening Swim
So, on a hot summer Texas night, I'm planning to enjoy some quality evening time with Tracy in our backyard. Our master bedroom door is right by the shallow end....
Who doesn't like a massage? I'm planning on giving her a 30 minute massage or a foot rub. I'd shoot for an hour, but let's be realistic. I don't think we'd last that long before moving on...
We've taken cooking classes before and had a blast with them. If you're interested, check out some of our original recipes that we've created on our website: outsidethenest Recipe
Yes, more of that. Very intentionally. Eye to eye and soul to soul. Give it a try...
9. Jar / envelope
Here's a thought: Put 10 romantic ideas in a jar or envelope and let your spouse choose one. Consider some of the ideas above or add shopping, dinner, movie, pedicures, or a walk in the park.
10. Love Languages
Finally, here's a great book to help us better understand our significant other: "New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse’s primary love language—quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch."
It’s one thing to fall in love. It’s another to feel someone else fall in love with you, and to feel a responsibility toward that love.
Every Day by David Levithan
Tracy and I have not "arrived" and we could all use some inspiration. I would love for you to reply to this blog and share your thoughts and ideas on romance too!
Bruce Levinson - outsidethenest.net